My hubby went back to Canada to “find himself” in Jan. I gave birth to our child mid- May. Should we visit h?
April 15, 2010 by
Filed under canada vacation homes
I am afraid that if i take our newborn up there to visit him, he can take her from me or keep her there even though our home is in the US. We are still married and have not discussed divorce but he wants to stay in Canada while I want to stay in the US like we planned when we first got together. Since he recently started a new job, he said he cannot travel hrre since he has no vacation time.
NO! Don’t visit him! Why would you waste time and money visiting a sperm donor? I’m assuming that he wasn’t there for the birth or anything else? He deserves nothing from you. If he wants to see you and the baby, then he will travel. I’d be filing for divorce now. He’s no husband.
your child is a us citizen, but i would ask an attorney before i went there. but any man who leaves u while your pregnant is wrong, and if he agreed to live here before u married him, he went back on his word.
No. Don’t visit him. And he can not take the baby away. For one, its a newborn. 2, the baby is an American citizen.
He wants to find himself? Tell him he is a father now, problem solved!
Ummm. NO.
What part of “this man has left you” do you not understand?
He has walked out on you and your daughter and you want to run after HIM?
Start divorce proceedings and do not look back.
I think you should make him come to you if it is important enough he will take time out of work to see his new family. I would!!!
You should file for divorce and then for child support. With the divorce, get full custody and give him visiting, this will stop him from taking your child. I know of a couple that filed for legal separation and the husband still has to pay child support because they are living in separate homes without the child. If I’m not mistaken, you could probably do that now. So go talk to a lawyer.
I wouldn’t care whether he had vacation time or not, if he wanted to see his child, he would find a way. He should not have left you pregnant, and could have stayed for the birth. This is his way of running away from his marriage, because he knows you want to stay in the US and do not want to live in canada. Even if you did compromise with this, I am inclined to believe that he will still leave you. If he loved you or his daughter, he would not have left in the first place, leaving you to fend for yourself and your child.
Don’t waste your time with a guy or gal for that matter that is ‘looking for themself.’ That is code word for: I am cheating on you and dumping you.
Y heck no don’t visit him !! He knows where you are. If he wanted to see his child~he’d make it happpen. He left you knowing you were pregnant. He didn’t care then~what makes you think he’ll care now. I wouldn’t chase after ANY man that dumped me.
and why haven’t you divorced him? he’s shown you that you and the child the two of you created isn’t a priority of his.